What are some reasons people cut themselves?
pinkpiggies i think says it best im 17 and i do self harm and i think she hit it on the head when saying he daughter does it when she feels like things are out of her control, theres so many reasons people do it it all depends on the kinda person they are for example someone could do it because they get dumped but it also comes down to how they cop with it and if they just feel lik it always happens to them, for me a few reasons i do it is if i get let down by someone that i trustd and when family problems just get to much for me to deal with seeing the blood feels like the pain and upset is just flowing out and seeing the blood for me, is a relief
Hi, I came here to talk about cutting because I feel like doing it again, often, and maybe talking about it will help me sort out my emotions. I haven’t cut in over five years, though it is so tempting sometimes. Sometimes, after a fight with my dad where he’s pushed me or called me names, I’ve felt this tingling sadness inside that left me tearful, with headaches, and very emotionally hurt, and I’ve wanted to do it again. This is often late at night, when I’m in bed, right after a fight. I’m an athlete (track and field, x-country) who has a great shot at doing some great things. However, prior to my realization of who I am I went through a period where some really weird shit was going on in my mind. It started with paranoia at the young age of 7. Sometimes I felt like people were constantly talking about me or watching me, and I knew that it wasn’t true. I thought it was a normal suspicion that was easily dismissed because I did know the difference between reality and “make-believe”.
People who are truly self mutilators or cutters USUALLY do not even feel any pain, because they are in a dissociative state and somewhat out of body. This is also referreed to as “splitting” because part of their memories, sensations (pain) thoughts, etc. are separated for a while from their conscious mind. They are turning anger and hate and other feelings inward, not unlike a person who kills themselves, but the cutter has more control. They are often called “hesitation marks” because the person has enough control to hesitate and not cut deeply (except sometimes they do by accident hit an artery or large vein and have to have stitches or worse) but deep enough to cause a scar and a reminder. This is a serious psyhiatric disorder or symptom of other things such as Borderline Personality Disorder etc, and needs to be addressed by a psychiatrist or other person trained in self mutilative behavior disorders. Medication and cognitive therapy often work as a very good combination to gettin
I am 25 and I began self harming, cutting, burning and hitting myself, around age 12. I believe that when I started hurting myself, I was totally out of my mind. I grew up in an extremely violent and abusive household and used self harm as a way to feel control in some aspect of my life. Also, I was intensely angry and needed a way to express it in a way that I felt was safe. It was not safe, of course, but I felt such rage against myself and my parents that I thought if I felt it, or let myself feel any amount of it, that it would kill me. I truly felt that the anger would kill me and I seemed deathly afraid to feel any of it. When I cut, I was in a dissociative state most of the time. There were times when I did feel pain but most of the time, I did not. I have something called Dissociative Identity Disorder, and although I don’t generally like to “hide” behind a label, I believe this was a large part of the problem. Dissociative Identity Disorder, (DID), used to be called Multiple P
Shifts focus, eases the overall pain, symbolic of internal torment, etc I did it because I was near deliriously depressed and pretty much suicidal – at the time it gave me something real and distinct to focus on, something to take my mind off other things (try focusing on something else when there’s a huge gash in your arm… lol) I view it as something that I think I needed to do, though I kinda regret the scars on my upper arms from it (I’m thankful that I never did it in a place that is always visible to people – though now I feel I must always wear shirts so people don’t see all the scarring). ***** Anyway, the important thing to realise is that in ‘most’ cases, the people who do it aren’t entirely in control of themselves, or don’t have a very clear perception of reality… It is very, very bad to look at such people as idiots or something – they are often far more tormented than their exterior would let you know.
