We are locked in patterns of yelling and name-calling. Can couples’ counseling help us with that?
Yes, if both people are motivated and committed to making a different relational pattern. It takes a willingness to look at self and accept what contributions to the disconnect each is making. That does not reflect intention. If a person’s intention is to connect and grow the relationship, we need to make sure our actions/behaviors follow our intentions. Often our reactivity is based in defensiveness that may have the unintended consequence of wounding our partner and causing misunderstanding.
