User post — Friends and money issues: When is it ok to say something?
I need some advice. I have a friend who often complains a lot. It’s fine if she needs to vent about an impossible coworker or a situation that really can’t be helped. I don’t have a problem with that. It’s not like I’m perfect or I never complain. What bothers me is when she complains about something that is fixable. If there is an obvious solution to the problem, then I don’t want to hear Miss “Negative Nelly” complaining. For example, she complains that she doesn’t have the money to travel. I suggested that she talk to my brother and his wife, because they are travel buffs and managed to go to Europe on a budget for their honeymoon. They stuck to their budget, but had a great vacation and did many of the things they wanted to do. They’re financial status is comparable to hers, so I told her that they were able to save for their dream vacation and still get what they wanted. I was only trying to suggest that she may be able to afford to travel, even though it seems too expensive. She
