Speaking of vices, why is sex spiritual?
Because we make it that way. Bridget and her friends, and everyone on Sex and the City , and all these other women characters in chick lit novels are all having sex outside marriage. So one of the things I was looking to do was to figure out, How do we incorporate this experience into our spiritual lives? Because people tend to divorce their sex life and their spiritual life, since religion teaches that marriage is the only legitimate place for sex. I went searching through the different traditions looking for some kernel of wisdom that would affirm what women are experiencing in their sex lives before they get married-if they get married at all. And I really was not able to find anything. So one of the conclusions that I came to was, “OK, if religion is not going to do this for us, we’re living our lives in a way that people really haven’t done before. We’re not getting married until we’re in our 30s or 40s or ever and so if we’re going to be having sex and we want that to be incorpor
