Shouldn I have gotten a formal invitation by now?
While I do agree that it *sounds* like you aren’t invited, I’d prefer to give you & them the benefit of the doubt if you really think you were on the invite list. I think you should contact your cousin and ask – – things DO get lost in the mail. I had a couple of Thank You’s that I mailed after my engagement party get lost in the mail and I am so grateful to that 1 person who sent me a little e-mail asking if I had gotten their gift or not. I was able to re-send several notes sent in the same batch with an added note of apology if this was the 1st they were seeing our thanks and explain that I had just found out some mail didn’t make it to everyone. It saved me from looking like a jerk that didn’t send a Thank You note! So perhaps the same could have happened with your cousin’s invites and unless somebody speaks up they will never know and they could think you & others are rude to not send back your RSVP’s. Give them a call and inquire. Just let them know that your parents have gotten
It definitely doesn’t sound like you’re invited. You can only “assume” you’re invited if your cousin actually tells you and sends you an invite. You don’t know the predicament. Maybe your cousin can only have a limited number of guests in the hotel and since it’s a destination wedding, they can’t really do too much more about it. Just because you were invited to his sisters’ weddings has absolutely no meaning, and your Aunt talked to you about it nearly a year ago, doesn’t mean that she knew what was going on. The only thing you can do is to call your cousin directly and ask.
Even with your edits/adds, I’d say you’re not invited. He’s not his sisters – he’s planning a different wedding. Maybe he wants it smaller than they had, maybe he doesn’t have as much money. His mother asked you last summer, before the economy tanked. Maybe the plans have changed since then. And perhaps if you had given the mother your answer last year, they took that into consideration when sending the invites. That they’re getting married in Mexico is a huge clue that they’ve cut back. Another thought is that since you live further away, perhaps your invitation simply hasn’t arrived yet. You didn’t mention how long ago your parents got their invite. Could be about a week until you get yours…
Ok, plenty of people have checked if you’re sure you’re invited, and I’m assuming that you’ve checked with the couple. It is possible that they’re assuming your parents will tell you. I had a friend send my invitation to my parents’ address, despite having been given my address. I’ve had a cousin send only one invitation for the parents and two adult children. It happens occasionally.
