Should parents be able to “return” troubled adopted children?
No, they should not be able to “return” the child. However, I do believe that there need to be programs available to help parents with severely troubled children, particularly adopted children. I have a friend that adopted a child from Easter Europe, and he has been a nightmare for her, up to and including endangering her as he has become a teenager. She is a very intelligent woman and she didn’t adopt him on a whim, but he is really out of control sometimes. He has been in special schools and to psychiatrists and the whole gammut to no avail. I have heard of similar stories from others, so there really needs to be some sort of support program for the parents and the children.
I say yes, but I think it should only be under extreme cases and would also depend on how long the family has had the child. And how old the child was when they got them. Since I was a foster parent and am an adoptive parent I know how some kids can be very troubled. And I know pretty much how the system works. You could end up adopting a child you have never even met. I think in those cases it would be ok for them to say wait a minute this kid is very messed up and more then we can handle. It is far better for a child to be returned to the system for DHS to try and find them a better family, then to try and force this family who is not prepared or able to meet the childs needs. This would only make things harder for the child. Our son that we adopted came into our hom when he was three, We had him for a couple of years then he left our house and went to live with his bio relatives (they wanted to adopt him). But he came back after a short while, becuase things went wrong so DHS had to
