Please help, need advice on how to heal after an affair, or what can I do to help the pain?
If you want to successfully close an unpleasant and hurtful experience you must erase everything that would remind you of the past. So make sure that all messages, photos, etc. are totally deleted. You hardly mention how your husband is helping you to heal and it might be you are taking too much on yourself when your husband should be playing a more important role. I can understand your inability to go for counseling so I think you and your husband should try to work things out together. You cannot expect to do it on your own.
