Parents often wonder: at what age is it appropriate for a child to attend a funeral or memorial service of a loved one?
Let your child be the guide and decide what he or she wants to do. Expressions of grief are unique to each child. Some children prefer to attend, some may prefer not to. Preschoolers may have a difficult time sitting through a service, but may find it meaningful when they are older to know that they were included and had a chance to say goodbye. Perhaps a friend can assist with the care of an active toddler attending the service. If a child is old enough, invite him or her to participate in the service. Some children like to write and/or read a poem or story about the loved one. Others choose to sing a song or pray. Still others choose to stay in the background. Trust your child to know what is best for him or her in this situation. Prepare your child for what will be experienced. Will there be a body? A viewing? Will there be highly expressive people at the service? If there is a body to view, explain that their loved one is not hurting, hungry or cold. If your family chose cremation,
