Overbearing Inlaws, when is enough?
As someone who has lived through this (my MILs attachment to my hubby was absurd). I can give you my 2 cents for whatever it’s worth. MY MILs over-involvement started with wedding planning (we tried to address it politely) and then it continued into our early years of marriage. She called too often, had unplanned “pop over” visits and would actually call hubby if we hadn’t seen her “for too long” to guilt him into coming over for dinner on Sundays. (btw.. her definition of not seeing him “frequently enough” was 1 week). 1) Do NOT confront your MIL. This is actually not an issue between you & MIL, but rather an issue between you & your wife. To confront MIL directly would honestly just make everyone mad and perhaps make it that much more difficult to ever resolve this. 2) Don’t address this with your wife in the midst of one of these overbearing MIL moments. Meaning when she hangs up the phone don’t pick a fight, when you see the bag of crap being handed over don’t start to get pissed.
