Nancy, in terms of self discovery, whats the biggest issue tween girls face?
Whether she can put it into words for you or not, it’s so apparent to her: How can I be myself when I don’t even know who I am? Yours may never voice it. She might not even be able to identify that funkiness she feels when she approaches a social situation where nobody knows her name — or her true self. But unless she is the only perfectly adjusted girl-child who has ever lived, this feeling is going to be there at some point. For some girls, the feeling fades the minute they walk in that unfamiliar door and immediately become the life of the party. For others, it takes some time to find a niche. For still others, that sense of not feeling quite real becomes a way of being. Think about it — have you never wondered which “self” you’re supposed to be in a brand new arena? It’s incredibly important for a mom to help her tween daughter find out who she is because there are plenty of other people telling her who she should be. Where are these messages about who a girl should be coming fro
