My wife is 13weeks pregnant and i have 3step kids.How can i make them love me more and more.And how will i?
You can’t MAKE them love you more and more. But if you treat them kindly, with patience, and spend time with them, and be there for them, they will naturally love you more and more. (I’m a step-mom, and I know.) As for control, you cannot control anyone but yourself. As far as being supportive while your wife is pregnant, just remind her that she’s beautiful. (As she gets bigger and starts to gain weight and/or swell, she won’t feel as attractive and will need your re-assurance.) Tell her you love her often. Rub her feet sometimes. Take the other kids out and give her some quiet time, and just try to make sure you don’t stress out her “already out of whack” hormones. Be patient with her. She may be edgy, emotional, and edgy sometimes.
I am sure you really don’t mean “control” in your question because there is no way that you can control a pregnant women – she can’t even do it. When I was pregnant, I was never in the same mood for longer then 10 minutes so my poor husband would become frustrated because I would be fine one minute and screaming at him the next. Just try to stay low key and when she is in one of those tantrum moods, tell her to sit down and put her feet up. You’ll be in her good graces forever. About the step children, I am not sure how you can make them love you more, but you can support them in all that is going on in their lives. Depending on the age of the kids the separation between their mom and dad was probably very traumatizing and they need a stable figure in their lives to feel comfortable. Be that consistency and they will love you for that. Best of luck!!
First, congrats on the upcomming baby! Second, you can’t MAKE anyone love on any level. You can demand respect though. The kids probably love you unconditionally as it stands right now any way. Also, you CAN NOT control your wifes emotions at all especially while being pregnant. You CAN support her though. (especially through her pregnancy). You can tell her how sexy she is, how beautiful she is, how lucky you are that she picked you. Oh and shes going to be tired so do little things for her, make the kids dinner, or better yet take them out for pizza and a movie one night and let her just relax. Also, look in your town for expecting mommy programs. This will give her time with other moms, they can share there current experiences as well as privious experiences to eachother and you get out of hearing the gross stuff like after birth and such. One thing that my hubby did for me and I loved him for it was do a day spa package… let them know she is expecting though… I would wait until
You have to earn their love and respect [not make them]. Spend quality time with them. Listen to them. Help them. Give them structure and discipline. Love them. Just like you would do with your own kids. It’s really that simple. For the wife it’s love, patience (tons of it), listening, and help. This is where you’ll need to sacrifice to make it work. Don’t try to controll her. Support is the right word.
You can’t CONTROL your wife…and you can’t MAKE your step children love you more. You have to let that happen on THEIR own time. Try to be a team, try to have as much fun as possible and be PATIENT! Remember that the kids always come first so that means being good to your wife and keeping her happy so that she can be the best mommy she can possibly be.
