My therapist keeps asking me to ‘let go’, to tell myself ‘it’s safe to let go’, but that seems like giving up, what do they mean?
Here are some points to consider, originally posted to MFRTalk (www.mfrtalk.com) by advanced MFR therapist, Robert Mollica: “Letting go…” To ‘let go’ does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else. To ‘let go’ is not to cut myself off, it is the realization I can’t control another. To ‘let go’ is not to enable but to allow learning from natural consequences. To ‘let go’ is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To ‘let go’ is not to try to change or blame another, it is to make the most of myself. To ‘let go’ is not to care for, but to care about. To ‘let go’ is not to fix, but to be supportive. To ‘let go’ is not to judge, but to allow another (or myself) to be a human being. To ‘let go’ is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To ‘let go’ is not to deny but to accept. To ‘let go’ is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and to cor
