My parents found my birth control pills! Wat should i do, how can i EVER earn their trust back?
Oh boy, this is a hard one. You don’t mention how old you are. I would be interested in knowing that. I am assuming you must be at least 16 years of age. You must have gotten the pills from a doctor or a clinic. I don’t know about your state, but where I live you must be 16 years to get the pill. If you were my daughter and your sexualy active, I would rather have you on the pill than not on the pill. But I sorry to hear that you don’t have the kind of relationship where you could have just went to your mom and told here that you were thinking about sex and wanted to have some protection. I have alway told my girls that when they felt they thought they were ready to have sex, that they should come to me and I would then have them see a doctor and get them the pill. I am the kind of mother that knows that kids are going to have sex. I would rather they did not, but I know what goes. I was one of the lucky ones though. My girls never did feel the urge to have sex until they were on there
You should have been honest with your parents and told them that you wanted birth control and let them know that you have not done anything yet but just in case that we you did you want ed their permission to be put on birth control. to say the least they should not be mad because you did the smart thing and got you protection not just for him but for yourself and future babies. You have your whole life ahead of you and you are thinking when most young girls think but say that it would not happen to them. Congratulation you are an adult, a person that takes you life very serious. Tell your parents that you are sorry and that you did not deceive them, but you did the right thing and that they should be proud that you thought about protection and did not have sex until you did and you did not just forgot or let him pressure into not using protection. You were thinking about your life and the life of a child you could not take care of and was not ready for and you have them to think that
Are you worried about earning their trust back or being deprived of your bf? It’s hard to tell. I think you should assume your parents got a pretty big shock when they found the pills. All of a sudden they had to see their baby girl as a sexually active person. Believe me this is hard on a parent, but they know you can’t get your virginity back again. So you need to give them time to adjust to your changed status. You need to answer their questions when they ask them, don’t cop an attitude, treat them respectfully. Be as mature and calm as you can be. Eventually, I hope you will work out a mutual respect for one another. I hope they will appreciate that you took precautions against getting pregnant. I hope you were not promiscuous so that you can make them feel better about you not having multiple partners. You and your bf are going to have to deny yourselves for a while. Don’t be all worked up over it. Remember you need to help your parents adjust to this, to figure out that you are s
So if I understand, you would like to continue deceiving your parents while getting their trust back? You weren’t trust worthy in the first place. So you pretty much stole their respect. If you stop your self pity for a moment, you might find that your parents are more afraid than angry, although their anger is justified. Birth control pills do not prevent STDs. When you made the decision to lie, you interfered with their role as parents to guide you and protect you until you’re on your own. Also, depending on how much lying you have done since you’ve been sneaking around to have sex with your BF, your parents may be reacting to a moral issue (lying) rather than a value issue (is it or is it not OK to be engaging in sexual activities when you are a child). Your lies were immoral. Your value choices—questionable. Better the nightmare that your parents are subjecting you to than the nightmare of serious health issues associated with sexually transmitted diseases. Slow down and enjoy yo
