My parents are probably getting a divorce.what should i do?
If the hotel bill had condoms on it, then at the very least, your dad was smart enough to not put your mom at risk. Don’t worry about that, ok? I am going to give you some advice that I hope makes sense, and that you can follow. I don’t know how old you are, so if it seems like I’m talking down to you, I don’t mean to. I want you to know that before I say anything else. In a marriage, things happen that no one outside of the marriage will ever understand, or know anything about. I call this inside stuff the “inner-workings” of the marriage – like, have you ever taken a watch apart and there are all those little wheels, dials, gears, springs … all the little inner workings ? Well, marriages have things like that, too, only they’re more internal because it’s stuff on the inside of the couple – emotional stuff, intellectual stuff, how they “get” each other … this will make a lot more sense once you become intimately involved with someone in a relationship. For now, just understand tha
Hi hun. I’m sorry to hear about all of this. This has nothing to do with you, first of all. It has to do with your parents relationship. Don’t be concerned about the details. Just stay tough and don’t let it get to you. Think of it as if they are children, just having an argument, but don’t let it rub off on you. I’m sure your parents don’t want to get you involved, unless they have already discussed this with you. I’m sure your mother is okay and your dad wasn’t being stupid. No matter what, you have to love and respect your parents. Be strong for them and hopefully they can get through this with your strength. Your concerns are normal, definitely talk to both your mom and dad if you really want to express yourself. They are the two that love you the most, and if they see you approach them, they’ll see what a lovely child they raised. You’re parents are more than likely going through things. I hope everything is ok at home and you are not experiencing anything extra aside of this. Eve
Real quick, unless it was a super cheap hooker, then he doesn’t have AIDS. Also, if he used a condom which I assume he did, then there is even less of a chance for him to get AIDS. So, write that off your mind, he doesn’t have it. Now, the main thing about divorce is none of it has to do with you. You might not even feel anything yet, but eventually you will start blaming yourself, you’ll be picked to force sides and it will be very hard. Just remember, this is your parents problems, not yours.
Laurie go and talk to someone about it. It’s very important that you get out your feelings. Go and ask an older trusted friend to help you find a counselor to talk to about this. One note. I do know marriages that have survived much worse a problem than this. You never know. I think backgammon’s observations are pretty good except for the part where she said about you’re mom. She should have stuck to the first part: it’s hard to understand 2 people’s love. This might be a way of your father getting your Mom’s attention or it might not be. It is impossible for you to know for sure so I think it’s best to stay out of it. Because it really is impossible to understand the full love story of 2 people. (There was a big part before you were born that you will never fully know). Please just let your parents figure it out and go and talk to somebody. Good luck.
You are not the reason for the divorce, if they do it. They are still your parents and you should love them BOTH. Yeah, according to what you know, your dad did a no-no and got caught. Almost sounds like he WANTED to get caught? Weird. Anyway, try to stay as neutral as possible and try to maintain a good relationship with your dad. He will always be your dad. And as far as mom goes, it’s the same with her. Mom is mom always. Any other sisters or brothers? Keep close with them if you have them, they will help you get through this.
