My estranged spouse and I have trouble speaking to each other without getting into an argument. What is the best solution to communicating effectively with my spouse?
Some attorneys “forbid” their clients from talking to the other party during the divorce action. My philosophy is that if the parties cannot communicate effectively, then trying to talk to each other is like throwing sand in each other’s faces. I often encourage a client in such a situation to let me be his or her spokesperson. If the other party has an attorney, then I only communicate with that attorney. If the other party does not have an attorney, then I speak directly with him or her after making sure that the party understands that I do not represent or advocate for his or her interests in any way. Sometimes parties can communicate with each other more effectively via email. However, email also can be used to “cyberstalk” the other person and become a tool of harassment. When that happens, the client can change his or her email address or simply refuse to accept or reply to the other party’s email. Back to the top.
