My 4 year old is a spoiled brat, how can I change that w/o hitting him?
You’ve got a whiner on your hands. I know what you’re going through because my daughter does the same thing. It’s easy to give in because it shuts them up for a while. And I know how frustrating it is when they start crying or whining to get what they want. Here’s what I learned through trial and error. First of all, I told all of my children this: “You are entitled to toys twice a year — Christmas and your birthday. If I get you something any other time, it’s because I want to, not because you want me to.” I also let them know before I go grocery shopping that I’m only buying what is needed for the house and nothing else. Those two statements have stopped the “Gimmies” and the “I wants” while we are out and about. Now, as for the crying and whining — It’ll take a while to work, but it does work. If he wants something that he doesn’t need, say no. When he cries and whines, say no. Tell him that you aren’t going to get him what he wants if he continues to cry or whine. Here’s where it
In my opinion, hitting is a big no no. Children tend to do all sorts of stuff which all have a good reason behind it. Whether it’s for attention, release they anger, etc. That’s why you need to find out they reason behind it. For a 4 year old, they won’t have much difficulty in explaining if you as them. Next time, when he cries you need use a soft and steady tone of voice and say, “You’re upset, ain’t you? It’s alright. But you know what? If you want something, you need to use your words. If you’re crying, it’s hard for Mummy to understand you. So next time you use your words. Now that you’ve stopped crying and I can understand you. Use your words and tell me what is it that you want” Also make sure you get down an eye-level , whether it’s sitting down, squatting, whatever it is. This is because if you’re standing up and looking down at him, he feels a bit “small”. Sometimes if their request is too much, you need to explain to him the reason why he can’t have it or what he can do to a
