Met a girl, she has a boyfriend, so what to do?
loriFLA:You will find another girl that is available. She will be just as smart, beautiful, and easy to talk to. It’s a heartache crushing on someone that is taken, but it will soon pass. Lori speaks the truth, you’d do well to listen to her and the others in this thread telling you to move on. One of my best friends did just what you’re looking to do. Met a girl at college (the perpetual boyfriend-having type) who killed any romantic notion early on by making him a friend. He had very strong feelings for her and watched helplessly as she got involved with one dickbag after another. Eventually, she moved in with him. He was elated and had sort of a platonic wife arrangement with her, except that she did nothing around the house and he showered her with gifts, spending untold thousands of dollars. She met a decent guy online, married him, and lived in my friend’s house for several months. To repay him for his generoucity, he got front row seats to watch the girl of his dreams sponge off
I can rationally say it’s not a case of me trying to be closer to her. Heck, if I saw her with her boyfriend, I’d be even more miserable. People convince themselves of a lot of dumb shit — like cramming, “I understand she’s taken but I just want to be platonic friends even though it would kill me to see her with another guy” into a single breath — and dude, that’s a fuckload of drama that you’re carrying around for some chick that you talked to a couple of times, let alone who’s taken and/or not interested in you. it almost seems obvious that I’m worrying too much and should just make some effort… Really? That’s the answer you got? Try again.
okay. this is what you do. like dydecker said you need a plan. now, this is going to take some effort, but if you really want this, it’ll be worth the time and effort. Your desire to live in a J Lo / Julia Roberts / whatever chick flick will be fulfilled. First thing first, become a doctor. Though you might not have 7 years to wait. Okay. Better yet, fake being a doctor. Or go to med school in her town. Go out and get a girlfriend. Act like this dealer girl doesn’t exist. And, in fact, forget about her. Date a girl who is self absorbed, beautiful, rich, and annoying as all hell. But you fall in love anyways and get engaged. With me so far? Awesome. Then..now this is the tricky part but do a topographical survey of the town she’s in. The US geologial society probably already has one of file. Take this map and locate every hill. On each hill, locate every dumpster that has at least a 2% chance of, at some point, rolling down these hills. Once located, limit your daily adventures to cross
