Lately my wife keeps finding excuses not to have sex with me. Can Tantra help?
First you should express your sadness that you no longer exchange all the physical pleasure you had at the start of your marriage. When you present yourself in this vulnerable way, your wife is likely to open up to you much more. Listen carefully to her reply, using your heart as well as your ears, noting her body language as well as her words. Men are always ready to offer a solution to a problem, or to repair what’s broken, but that’s not always what women want. If you listen quietly without offering any suggestions yourself, your wife will probably feel free enough to express many hidden feelings. She might feel resentful about something you’re not even aware of, which makes her feel less loving toward you. It might be as simple as you coming home late from work too often. It might be that you no longer take all the time you used to take with kissing, caressing, massaging, and loving her in other ways before engaging in intercourse. Encourage her to continue expressing her emotions,
