Is victim mentality predicated on emotional weakness?
The victim mentality is where one uses something that happened to them or might happen to them as an excuse not to live/work/accomplish to their fulfillment. In other words, blaming everyone or everything aside from ones self. However, going for help when something truly awful has happened to you does NOT mean that you’re playing the victim card or have a victim mentality. Odd as it sounds, depending on what happens to you, there are some things that most people can not get over by themselves. They need help. For those who say “the soldier who never talks about what happened to him in war and is very close lipped is stronger than the solder that goes for help” THAT mentality is wrong. Because just because you don’t talk about something doesn’t mean you’re not being affected by it. By NOT talking about it is a way of avoidance (and something that can harm you even more). There is a BIG difference between one who plays up the victim mentality and one who seeks help for something that hap
There is no doubt even the strongest of people can be broken if you know their weak point. And Victims are just that victims there is not an argument there. Where I do have a problem is that there is definitely a thing called victim mentality that is a delusional state of mind whether self taught or put in there by unrealistic ideologies that makes people who are actually privileged feel like they are victims. I for one have not time for these people as it is the real victims of this world that we should be helping.
Can be both. People react very differently to violent crime; some recover and move on without scars, others m ove on but carry the memory around for life and others are emotionally crippled, everyone is different. Emotional weakness comes into play but it is the mental fiber and strength of the person to being with that determines their ability to truly overcome the victim trauma.
People have had some pretty awful things happen to them and probably repressed it in their memory or never fully dealt with the tragedy the way one usually does and finally they have what is called a psychotic break. Has nothing to do with emotional weakness. In fact these people are usually the strongest emotionally in situations because they can easily repressed bad memories.
We should always remember this: No matter what happens in our lives, it MAY NOT BE our fault, but it’s ALWAYS OUR RESPONSIBILITY. In other words, we may have been victimized or had otherwise bad things happen to us, but it’s ALWAYS our responsibility to pull it together and work through and transcend these obstacles. THE VICTIM MENTALITY IS A TRAP.
