Is there a Free online marriage counselor? ?
I have counseled couples (pre-marriage, marriage, post-marriage) for 50 years. In all that time I found that the central problem in all relationships is disappointment in expectations. That is, when you enter into any relationship, and especially marriage with its legal ties, each person has expectations of the other. Those expectations are usually somewhat idealistic, and therefore they are likely not to be fulfilled. This leaves the expecting partner to be disappointed. Multiply times two, because both partner have idealistic and unrealistic expectations of each other, and therefore disappointments. This is understood much better within the framework of “role theory,” a sociological approach to partnerships of all kinds. Examples include: parent/child, husband/wife, teacher/student, worker/boss, friend/friend, and so on. There are always two persons in a role relationship (called the “role dyad”) and they are called “ego” and “alter” or more often, “self” and “other.” For more on tha
