is physical touching (measured and respectful touching, of course) generally to be seen as a positive sign?
In other words, if a man is asking a woman about her interests or career, and punctuates it with a gentle touch on the arm, this would be something that a woman should take positively, correct? A touch on the arm might be taken positively if the woman wants the touch, or if she is happy with it once the touch is received. Women often struggle with errant instinct. They thought they wanted a touch and they didn’t. They thought they wanted to have a gentlemanly first connection, but they miscalculated, and so on. For the aggressor, if it’s the woman, of course she wants the touch on the arm. If she is the aggressor it provides evidence that there is some minimal connection that makes the aggression worthwhile. If the man aggresses, that’s when things are more consistent with our biological selves. And in these situations culture often brushes up against biology in the most unpleasant of ways. First Contact is crucial. If it doesn’t go well, there will almost certainly be no appreciated s
