Is open adoption really a good idea?
In attending a birth parent class before we were approved, our eyes were opened up to open adoption. After hearing birth mothers express to us how seeing their children after placement helped them move on and how it also helped them to feel better about their decision, we decided to have an open adoption. Our thinking was, “Since someone is giving us such a great and selfless gift, then why not do what we can to help them heal in return?” Our adoption is very open. We see our daughter’s birth mother once a month. We feel that it is important for our daughter to know that her birth mother loved her and still loves her, and that is why she made her decision to place her in our home. Before placement occurs, you are able to set boundaries, and then later if you are comfortable, open a few more doors. Just make sure you stick to your promises. It is always easier to open a door, than to close one later. Birth parents hold on to your promises, so make sure you are true to your word. Adoptio
