IS one sided love really a total waste or not?
It depends on your expectations… If you do all the giving without expecting the other person to reciprocate, then you won’t be disappointed–you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you gave unconditionally (and may receive satisfaction from a Higher source than the one you are expressing love to). However, if you are expecting the other person to reciprocate–whether now or even 20 years from now–and they never do, you will only experience hurt, rejection, depression, and remorse. You might be interested in going through the “One-Way Relationships Workbook: The 12-Week, Step-By-Step, Interactive for Recovery from Codependent Relationships” by Alfred Ells (Author), which is very cheap at Amazon.com.