Is it fair to ask my friend to leave her verbal abusive husband?
Breaking away from an abusive partner is a process. I know how you feel. One of my good friends was verbally abused… she worked 3 jobs to keep them afloat, while his excuse for not having a job was to blame her: she had totaled one of their cars during a bad ice storm. So he sat home all day smoking weed while my friend worked 80 hours a week. Fortunately, my friend has a very supportive family, and I also *refused* to lose her no matter how many times their phones went dead because he didn’t pay the bill or made her get rid of her cell phone. I can’t claim credit for her getting out… unfortunately it took her getting pregnant to make that decision. But I know I helped, because I was always there. No matter what. You can do the same for your friend… always be there, no matter what. Try not to judge, at least not outwardly. Just make sure she has your phone number, and knows she can call you DAY OR NIGHT. 3am, doesn’t matter, if she needs you, you’ll answer.
