Is it bullying when a child pressures another to join in behavior thats mean or harmful?
Siris: The child watching an unkind event is a “bystander.” We try to turn “bystanders” into “upstanders.” These upstanders stand up for what is right and fair and speak up for themselves as well as those they see being bullied. Sheras: Sometimes kids who feel vulnerable become allied with the bully as a way to protect themselves. They believe that joining in the bullying is preferable to being the target. Since they are also victims of the bully, they are often most redeemable. They may be fearful about standing up and need to be supported. Pattison: Joining in often starts out subtly in elementary school when a child feels pressure to be part of the group. There are also bullies who goad others to misbehave and then watch while their followers get into trouble. • Is it appropriate for a parent to confront a child bully? Siris: A parent should not have a discussion with another child about past behavior unless the parent or guardian of the child is there, too. The situation should be
