Is it bad to want positive validation from ones spouse?”
Wanting positive feedback from your spouse is part of the foundation to your relationship. Ofcourse, constructive critisizim is needed in a relationship at times to help improve, but lacking positive validation from you doing something for them is not a good trait. One problem could just be his communication. He might be able to communicate with you on certain levels, yet appreciation is something he may have trouble with. Every relationship needs positive feedback. It only reassures that your relationship is worthwhile. Another problem is he may be holding back a little bit. You said when he was drunk he complimented you? Well, they say truth comes out when your drunk, ha. That is only a sign that he could be holding back. It also tells you he may really be appreciative, but just doesn’t think he has to say it for you to know. If it is really bothering you, maybe the best thing to do is to have a talk with him, and say something like ” I know that you do appreciate me for the things I
