Is codependency an addiction?
Codependency is an addiction, an addiction to another person. Just as an addict is driven by his need for relief through mind/mood-altering substances, the codependent person derives relief in the relationship s/he has with the addict. Codependency is putting someone else’s wants, needs, feelings and problems above one’s own, taking care of someone else, while neglecting oneself. The codependent’s judgment is impaired, s/he is out of control, and has a distorted view of the relationship. One is a sinking ship, the codependent stays on while the others would jump off. The co-dependent depends on others who are unable to provide or care for themselves. The addict’s problems actually feed the codependent in a variety of ways. The codependent’s caretaking prevents the addict from bearing the responsibility for the consequences of the addiction and from recognizing the need for outside professional help. The emotional gain derived from ‘codepending’ (i.e., caring, helping, rescuing) is the
