Is Closure in a Past Relationship Necessary?
When it’s over, it’s over and I’m never looking back. So when an ex-boyfriend comes calling in the name of closure, he’s out of luck. In fact, the last thing I’m interested in entertaining is past hurts. But am I doing myself a disservice? For some advice, I consulted Audrey B. Chapman, relationship therapist and author of the new book ‘Getting Good Loving: The Seven Ways to Make Love Last’ (Agate Publishing), who had a thing or two to say about my closure-phobia: Why look back? Chapman: If you move out of a relationship without resolving past relationship hurts, disappointments and failures, you may hamper your ability to be open, to trust, to engage or to be close and honest. The moment you get into another relationship, these issues tend to arise. In fact, most of the problems that people have in relationships come from “unfinished business” from prior relationships. Is closure real or is it another name for filling the emotional needs of the hurt party in the breakup? Chapman: Clos
