In Sickness and in Health… and Infertility?
Remember how you felt when you were first married, the feeling that you and your love could handle anything? That there was nothing out there big enough to come between you? And then came infertility… and everything seemed different. Infertility is a force in marriage unlike any other, because is does not come as much from “outside” as from “inside”. It is not so much an outer force, as an inner one that nibbles away at areas hard to talk about: individual self-image, sexuality, and the sexual relationship, as well as emotional well-being and ways of responding to a crisis–every area of a marriage from the inside out. And though two people may want to cope with the crisis in a united way, it just may not be possible at first. The average couple will go through a scenario something like this: He will cope by keeping his feelings to himself and focusing on her… She will cope by expressing over and over how awful and unfair and frustrating everything is… She pushes more and more; h
