I’m alone in caring for mom, and I’m a single working mother. How can I get my brothers and sisters to help?
In many families, one person becomes “it” when it comes to care for aging parents. Being a responsible concerned daughter just means making sure that your mother’s needs are met. It does not mean doing everything yourself. It may not be practical to have each of your mother’s children spend equal time and effort in helping her, but equity or some sharing of responsibility is certainly a desirable goal. Fill a jar with single tasks required for your mother’s care. Ask your siblings to take on those tasks that they are able and willing to do. Don’t waste your emotional energy trying to convince an unwilling brother or sister to come forward. Perhaps your brother who lives away can make phone calls or go on the web to find services for your mom? Can a sister handle your mom’s health insurance, bills or taxes? Can your brother take care of her car or the sale of her home to reduce the number of things on your plate? Can your sister move in with your mom when you are away on vacation? A bri
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