If I use this Collaborative Problem Solving approach, and reduce the overall demand on my child’s frustration tolerance, how will he/she ever be prepared to live in the real world?
This is another common concern that is often raised by newcomers to our parent support group. Remember, reducing demands is what is accomplished by Basket C. Now, Basket C can be very important for some children very early in treatment because they are simply unable to meet all of the demands that are being placed upon them. But Basket B is where your child learns how to be more flexible, how to deal more adaptively with frustration, how to generate solutions to problems, how to figure out what the problem is in the first place, and how to take another person’s needs into account. Which is more crucial for a child to learn to be prepared for the real world: blind adherence to authority (as trained in Basket A) or learning how to come up with mutually satisfactory solutions with other people (as trained in Basket B)? We think Basket B does prepare children for the real world!
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