I told my lil daughter off and she is crying, should I stick to my guns?
If she has been crying for more than 20 minutes, go through, say nothing, & giver her a big hug. When she calms down (hopefully she will), tell her you love her but she can’t hit you (or other grown-ups) the way she did as it is unnacceptable. Tell her you understand she is angry & try to talk to her about what makes her angry/sad. Say you know she misses her mom & get her to talk about it. Don’t promise her mom will be back home soon (unless you know that to be true) or anything similar – instead tell her that things may be difficult for a while & encourage her to express her feelings. When she does, listen to her (look like you are listening!) and give her lots of cuddles. Distraction may help & play it’s part too… talk to her about Xmas & ask her what presents she wants…it’ll giver her something positive to think about for now. Good luck.
Well, ignore all the crap about giving her treats, because then she’ll just think that every time she does something naughty enough to be told off, Daddy will feel guilty and buy her sweets. Don’t apologise for telling her off either, if she hit you, she needed to be told off! Kids need discipline, and if you don’t set boundaries and stick to your guns, you’ll be the one accused of bad parenting when she slaps another kid at school. Just make sure she understands why she’s being told off, and give her lots of attention and praise for ‘good’ behaviour – anything from brushing her teeth well to helping you tidy her toys. You’re not doing anything wrong by wanting her to learn right from wrong.
