How useful is sex as a relief from stress and tense situations?
To speak of sex as “useful” in this context seems to me to be a bit off-target. I believe very few people will tend to feel better or feel relieved of a serious external stress by simply getting laid. A partner who is used deliberately in that manner might grow distinctly resentful — with some justification. Sexual intimacy with a loved significant other can be very emotionally nurturing and supportive. When we go to our lover for comfort and support and are received with caring sensitivity, many times our stress level may be lowered and our ability to cope with the world generally enhanced. Sex without emotional intimacy tends to work in the opposite manner. It is in the nature of stress and tension, that our sexual availability and personal sensitivity can be closed down when we feel ourselves to be under extreme pressure — whether the stress is related to our lover or not. When we’ve been severely stressed, it can be difficult to open up to our own sensations and to the desire of
