How to Repair a Relationship After Cheating?
It takes seconds to destroy trust, and years to rebuild it . . . Few people understand how devastating infidelity can be to a relationship. Affairs rape the emotional trust at the core of love. However, there is a way to repair the damage wrought by an affair. Be aware — it’s not for the faint of heart or the uncommitted. The Four H’s When one partner has an affair, it triggers Four H’s in their mate: Hurt, Hate, Hesitation to Trust, and Holding on to Resentment. If you had the affair, your partner felt hurt by having his emotional trust betrayed. He hated you for taking away that trust — the most important element for love — and having to worry over what else you might be lying about. Your partner is hesitant to trust you only to risk being betrayed again (many people who have been cheated on say that if they made it through one infidelity, they know they wouldn’t be able to make it through another). And finally, he’s going to hold on to resentment. He won’t want to, but may feel p
I hope you will be open minded about my response and that it’s not my intention to make you sound low for what you did. You have committed one of the ultimate “Deal Breakers” for relationships. You then camouflaged it by getting married. A few months later you lose the very thing with your hubby that you gave away to another man that doesn’t even love you. Wow! You can’t expect to beat the rabbit in a race by following the turtle with a race car. I’m sorry your therapist gave you that bogus tactic as a means of mending your relationship. To fix any problem, You have to go back to the source which is “not” the cheating, but reason why you cheated. Keep in mind you cared about this guy and he didn’t care about you. So you continued to be used by him (maybe hoping that he would have a change of heart). When that didn’t happen you used your “hubby” as the rebound guy. Now that you have a guy that you know loves you and won’t hurt you ……… it didn’t fix the problem, which is, your hear
