How to make wife happier and get man time?
Anyone who wants time away from family should get it, because otherwise resentment builds up. OP and Aurorazz, I think it is too bad your wives don’t encourage you to get some “man time” and maybe you really, really need to encourage them to get some “girl time.” Decide on a fair amount of “personal time” for each of you, each week, and then insist that you BOTH take it–maybe 4 hours, for example. Hers could be on a weekday when the kids are in school and she could swap time with another mom for child care or hire a sitter for those 4 hours; yours might be early Sat mornings or something like that. If either of you does not have plans for your alone time, just go to the coffee shop and read, or a book store, or a gym and sit in the hot tub after a good workout! The point is to get away from the routine in a manner that is equitable and healthy. And then, make sure you have couple time, too–again, a sitter on Sat. night every other week (swapping with another couple can work, too), an
