How open should my spouse be to earn my trust back?
As long as he is still carrying on like this, he does not deserve your trust. You need to understand that trust is something that is earned……IT IS NOT GIVEN!!! The truth here, is that your husband has been caught cheating, by your son. It is sad that your child overheard all this, but all the signs are there. You have reached the point of hiring an investigator to follow him, because it is obvious that he is not going to admit to it. More than likely the affair is happening with someone at work, since he removed all the family pictures from his office. You deserve to know who and why, because you deserve to be happy. You could also show up at his job just before lunch occasionally to go out to lunch, eventually you will see who she is. The people where he works are probably well aware of what is going on, and they know who is doing who in the office. But you deserve to be happy and not called crazy, because he is being unfaithful.
