How many ADOPTIVE PARENTS REGRET entering into an OPEN ADOPTION?
I have to say deep down I regret it, I don’tt regret the adoption because I love my daughter but I regret the fact that I didn’t push for a closed adoption, I know it is better for her to know her real mother but she is a bum and I’m seeking legal advice as to how to cut her out of my daughters life, she currently visits her bio mother once a month for a weekend and when I pick her up she is either naked or wearing an old tshirt or a pillowcase with a hole in it and her nice clothes I buy her are ruined or missing, one time i picked her up and she was green, bio mom had let her play and roll around in green clothing dye, she is also picking up unsavoury language skills and behaviours such as curse words, puching and spitting.
You said you are seeking “parents opinions” Ok. I am a so called “whiny adoptee” who is also a parent. I wish I had been in an open adoption. For every reason the adoptive parents who have responded are glad they are in an open adoption. Once again, Im disgusted by an original poster diminishing the needs of the adoptee. And once again, Im thankful for the adoptive parents who have told their stories and show that there are ap’s who really do know what is best for their children. It’ s NEVER in a child’s best interest to be in a closed adoption, unless there was abuse involved. Even then, the child should know who his first mother was and see pictures, and have contact with other f family members who were not abusive. Thank you. Your child will thank you, too.
