How long does it take to determine if a relationship has long term potential?
You didn’t state your age, which has some bearing on the question. Within the first 6 months you should definitely have an idea in your head “This is somebody I could see myself in a committed , potentially lifelong, relationship with.” If not, you should probably consider breaking it off for both your sakes.
I swore I would never put someone through that misery. And yet you still dated people? We can’t spare other people misery if we’re going to be open to bringing them joy. Some things you know in an hour, other things you might not know for a decade. The thing you need to not do to someone is jerk them around after you do know. So long as you’re not doing that you should just keep doing what you’re doing.
As a guy who’s been mistaken for “the one” on numerous occasions, I’m tired of women who are into “finding Neo.” Life doesn’t culminate in the awarding of prizes, and the bestowal of bliss, as a result of conducting a successful hunt. It’s a journey, and at some points, you may get to invite a partner. Along the way, you spend some time hunting, some time building, some time swimming, some time sleeping, and some time, maybe, making and raising the next generation. Then you die, and whether there is any more to human experience after that, is hard to say. Some people are good partners for part of the journey, and some people are fortunate to find one partner for the whole journey. But we’re all on different, though similar journeys. How can anyone know what his journey will bring, what this or that particular partner can or can’t share? Lighten up. Don’t eat the last Oreo, or leave wet towels on the floor, and if it’s going to work
