How is the principle of Masculinity lived?
Here are some suggestions for living the principle of masculinity. First of all, the gender double bind must be broken in order for you to develop sense of masculine sufficiency (having enough maleness inside you and around you in your life). And, the gender double bind is broken by exposing the lies in it and by contradicting them experientially. Here are some ways to expose some of the most common gender double bind lies. Lie: “If I behave in masculine ways (i.e., according to socially defined male roles) I will feel humiliated, rejected, or shamed.” This lie is exposed and contradicted through little-by-little trying on new masculine behaviors (whatever that means to you). Some will stick and others will be dropped. Gradually, the newly adopted behaviors will become integrated into your overall personality and contribute to a deepening of your sense of masculinity. Having mature male role models is important in this process. Lie: “If I expose my true self to “normal” (i.e., heterose
