How has the diagnosis (Asperger Syndrome) helped Brandons brother [Matt] to deal with his behaviors?
Amalia: Unfortunately, it hasn’t changed anything. Matthew still believes his brother can do better, and thinks he is faking it [behaviors] much of the time. He also believes Brandon is sometimes just lazy. Brandon can do things one day and the next day he may not be able to repeat the same task. It is difficult for Matthew to understand his behavior, and he is not alone in his thinking. At conferences I have met many siblings who think the same way Matthew does. I have tried to explain to Matt about Brandon, but he doesn’t want any part of it. I know if he could understand what Brandon’s limitations are and then accept his brother just as he is he would no longer feel upset or frustrated by him. However, I know that is a tall order for many people. It may happen over time or it may never happen. I approach this subject whenever the opportunity arises. I hope and pray that Matthew changes his thinking before I die. It would make things much easier and much better between the two of the
