How does one cope with a spouse suffering from Paranoid Personality Disorder?
All the symptoms you describe are typical of Paranoid Personality Disorder. If she refuses to go to therapy, it shouldn’t stop you from going. You have a responsibility to raise your kids in a safe and loving home, and you deserve that too. Otherwise you will all get sick from her untreated sickness. Parental modeling is one way kids get sicker. If she is not receptive to intervention, you must make some tough decisions. If you start therapy now, you will be able to do what’s good and right for you and your kids.