How does a wife trust her husband again after an affair?
Have you started any kind of counciling with your husband?This whould be a great start. Not only whould you be able to ask him why he felt like he needed to have an affair, but you whould have a professinal person to help you work on your marriage. I know that it is a very scary feeling to up and leave someone you have been in love with for along time and have kids with, so hopefully you will be able to try the counciling.