How Do You Stop Arguing With Someone?
• Try to avoid topics about which you know they are passionate. If you know which buttons to push to get them started, don’t push them. • Remain calm if they start arguing. • Restate what they have said. For example: “I think (insert person’s name) is an incompetent ass”. You say “So, you think (insert person’s name) doesn’t have the competency to do their job?” The person will feel that you have heard them and understood them. You are NOT agreeing with them or passing any judgement on what they have said. • Do not state your opinion, or state it once if you really must and leave it at that. • Remember it takes two to argue. Usually two people who want to “win”. If two people are having an argument and you don’t want to participate, simply walk away. IF you’re participating, then you are trying to win.
