How Do You Move On After A Verbally Abusive Relationship?
Start by immediately surrounding yourself with positive people, positive groups, activities that promote your sense of worth and value, things that make you feel important or needed. Talk to others who you know will build you up, you know, the friend or family member who is always complimenting others, praising people for their lives. These folks will mend your broken psyche and start to fill in the void left from the abuse. In time, and it does take time, you will be uplifted, stronger and more sure of yourself, your value and you will know who it is you really are instead of the lies the abuser told you about yourself. We need to reprogram your brain, teach it to believe the good about yourself once again.
Damages have been done, scar tissue will result and you will be unhappy with yourself until you do something to repair the damages. It is fixable. You must be proactive in fixing your self image by
retraining your thoughts to match the truth instead of the lies you’ve been fed for so long. Don’t kid yourself if you think you’ll just be able to let time heal all wounds, you need to get out there and put effort into reforming the positive thoughts on your self image. When you can look yourself in the mirror and smile and know exactly who you are and who you are not, and you feel so sure about the person you are looking at because you have affirmed the facts and backed them up with proof in all the actions you take, the kindesses you do and say, the abilities you portray and succeed with,, the plans you make and pan out, the people who remark and remind you of how good you look and how thankful they were to have you help them out, and all the moments when someone said to you,"I’ve always like the way you ______" then,, and only then, will you be able to MOVE ON.
Verbal abuse is a programming of your mind to undemine your personal belief system and will over time sink in subconsciously and the damages are life long if something doesn’t "surgically" remove them from your brain.
counteracting the thoughts with new improved and positive thoughts will over time erase the damaged membranes and can be overcome by repetitive affirmations, hypnosis, life style changes and sometimes even medication.
Whatever works for you, do that and do it often and don’t stop until you are sure you are healed from the abuse. Your life is in your hands now, be the one to save yourself.
Verbal abuse is toxic to both the mind and body. It seeps into every aspect of your life and leaves your spirit broken. Verbal abuse scars run deep and stay with you long after the relationship has ended. It is important to take the necessary steps in order to heal and move on to have positive and healthy relationships. Confront the abuse. Looking at the abuse for what it was will help you to move past it and on to healthy relationships. Understand the Abuser. It seems intuitively counterproductive but understanding the abuser will help you accept that the abuse was not your fault. Seek counseling. The damage from verbal abuse can last for years if you let it. Seek a professional therapist in order to work through your pain and move on with your life. Read books about verbal abuse. This will help you gain a more in depth understanding of verbal abuse and the healing process after the abuse has ended. Try “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans or “No Visible Wounds” by Ma
