How Do You Look People In The Eye?
• Relax! As with anything else, the more you think about it, the more self-conscious you’ll become. Your nervousness can then be misinterpreted. • Concentrate on one eye. Switching from left to right and back all the time will make you appear insecure, inattentive, and confused. It may help to prefer the left eye, because the right side of the brain controls emotions but controls the left side of the body. And if you don’t believe this, just pretend you did, because you have to choose an eye anyway. • Avoid staring. Just look directly into the person’s eye in a relaxed manner. Remind yourself that you are hoping to have a pleasant conversation with this person — there’s no need to be anxious. • Listen. During the conversation, if you focus completely on what that person is saying, you won’t have to worry about making eye contact correctly; if you are truly listening, you will just naturally focus your eyes on his/her eyes. Remember that maintaining eye contact is how you quietly prove
