How Do You Handle Nasty Comments From Flatmates?
• Assess whether the rude comments are intentional or not. Are the people you living with trying to be rude, or might it be accidental? If you’re not sure, perhaps get a neutral opinion. Make a mental note of the situation and the words uttered next time it happens. Retell this story to a friend who does not know your roommate (and has not heard you complain of them before), and ask his or her opinion. Would they consider the comment rude, and if so, would they think it was done on purpose? This makes a huge difference in how you should handle the situation. • If there’s a chance that the housemate may not be aware that they are being perceived as rude • Consider what else could be driving their harsh words. It might have nothing to do with you. Are they irritable because of job or relationship troubles? PMS? Perhaps they are shy and insecure deep down, and do not feel able to express themselves as they mean to. You will still need to bring the behavior to light and set your boundaries
How Do You Handle Nasty Comments From Flatmates?