How Do You Deal With Someone Who Is Having Problems With Drugs Or Drinking?
• Realize that you control your actions. You control your emotions and responses to other people’s behavior. You can’t change what they do but you CAN change how you feel. • Stop helping the drinker. Don’t make excuses for them if they are late. Don’t call in sick for them at work. Don’t buy them pain killers when they have a hangover. Don’t clean up their messes, fix their mistakes, or try to smooth things over. They have the ability to do all these things on their own, and you’re helping them shows that they can continue to do it. • Decide what your course of action is. If the person is your partner, will you leave them? If the person is your child, will you cut them off, or force them to leave the house? Remember, you can only choose what you will do. You cannot tell someone they “must” go to meetings “or else”, or anything similar to that. You can only choose the course of your own life. You can also choose to stay, and change your own life, and simply distance yourself from the ad
