How Do You Deal With Difficult People Without Becoming One?
Dealing with difficult people is something that needs more than hints and tips. It takes guts, grace, and the ability to walk away. Here is a step by step process for developing these virtues. After all, which is more important: stopping a difficult person, or not being a difficult person yourself? Before we get to step by step process, we need to first define a difficult person. A difficult person is a person whose pattern of relating with you is stubbornly, painfully, and awkwardly abnormal. You walk away shaking your head. Some days you think ‘that person is crazy.’ On worse days you walk away thinking ‘am I crazy?’ In other words, if you go back and forth between thinking this is a bad person and you are a bad person, you probably have a difficult person on your hands. TAKE STOCK OF WHAT DOES NOT WORK WITH YOUR DIFFICULT PERSON. Take a few minutes to list all of the things you have tried to do that haven’t worked. Have you: yelled, joked, confronted, served or ignored? What can you
