How Do You Be A People Pleaser?
The term people pleaser has found an identity in modern psychology. It’s a personality type that most feel is negative if unchecked. On the face of it, being a people pleaser seems like a good thing, but experts say it’s best to set up limits for this character trait to avoid low self-esteem and other relationship problems. Here are some ways to make the people pleaser personality work for you. Sort out your yes and no. Every time you make the decision, think about whether you are saying yes because you are enthusiastic, or just to make the other person happy. Think about the criticism you get. Be sure not to take criticism from others to heart unless you really feel that their statements are true. You need to learn to get tough about countering undue criticism from friends or family. Make sure you are fine with the commitments you make. This goes back to the idea of saying “No.” Be firm about setting your level of involvement in different projects and don’t allow yourself to be strong
