How do two grad students make a long distance relationship work?
It sounds to me as though you have more practical options than she does at this point. It also sounds as though you realize this, and are willing to be the one to make the primary sacrifices to secure the health of the relationship. This is a good step. I am not an expert in academia, nor in the LA job market. What I do have a bit of experience in is being the one in an LDR who has to make the move, and make some sacrifices, in order to help things work out. From that perspective, I can tell you what your biggest enemy probably is: fear of the unknown. You’re looking at moving to a city you don’t like for at least several years, and possibly upsetting your job prospects. This is, understandably, a frightening and possibly upsetting prospect. However, you must consider this: it is entirely possible to be broke, not working in your chosen field, and generally a bit off the lead pace, and not be miserable — especially if you are doing it with someone you dearly love. Perhaps a little exe
